Thursday, January 10, 2013

Local "Gentleman's Club" burned down. Wives happier? I doubt it.

Last night the Mouse's ear in Gray burned down.  I saw a joke on FB along the lines that there was a wife somewhere, that finally had enough.  Sorry ladies, the truth is, that fire won't change any one's behavior.   

Working across the street from "the ear" for over a year, I've seen the parking lot hundreds of times.  We'd start at our shop sometimes at 6:00 a.m., and I would be surprised to look across the street and see cars still in the parking lot.  I've wondered more than once what I would've thought had I seen any vehicles I recognized? 

I had a funny thought when I heard the news about last night's fire.  What if you were sneaking out there, yes you were a patron, but you wanted to be unnoticed (We still have taboos, right?).  Then, there's a big fire, and all of a sudden, now you are found out by your friends & family!  That reminds me of Numbers 32:23, "Be sure your sin will find you out."

Will there still be a market for a "Gentleman's club" after the fire?  Probably.  But, you ask, what's big deal anyway?  Nobody is holding a gun to any one's head to work there, or to lay down your hard earned cash to help them keep their doors open either.

Well, the truth is establishments like the Mouse's ear devalue the beauty of women and their intrinsic value.  The perpetuation of strip clubs simply sends the message that women are tools for our pleasure.  The strip club's lopsidedness, its one-way drive, removes the reciprocal, give & take element of pleasing each other, promoting selfishness & being self-centered.  Who raises their daughter saying, "I can't wait till daddy's little girl grows up to..." You get the idea, at some level we all disprove. 

Is nudity good?  Yes!   But, a river without banks become a stagnant swamp, we all need boundaries:

"Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe.  Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?  For a man's ways are before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his paths."  (Proverbs 5:18-21 ESV)

Also, strip clubs teach our culture that eroticism and sexuality independent of a relationship secured within the safety of marriage vows are natural or normal or acceptable   Intimacy, mimicked on stage or not, has a powerful hold over hearts & minds.  There are downfalls to this, it results in failed relationships.  How so?

Sex is more than physical contact, there is a deep emotional & spiritual connection that accompanies it.  We wonder why we have so many problems in our culture with failed relationships & broken marriages?  Perhaps we have lost too much respect and appreciation for the beauty & Biblical value of nudity that is best enjoyed between a husband & wife.


Dana Overcash said...

So True! Thank you for writing this. I'm sure you have a happy and secure wife. Wish there were more men like you in this world. God bless.

Craig Cottongim said...

Thank you for your encouraging words!